Picture of Carey and Kathleen in High School

2 year anniversary of Carey's death today

To my big brother, I miss you, I love you and I am so thankful that I will see you again someday.  Thank goodness for the Atonement and Resurrection. The glorious Plan saves us all!

I know I'll see you again someday.

Love you, Little Sis

7 Stages of Grief, very interesting to think about

Here is the grief model called "The 7 Stages of Grief":
 

7 Stages of Grief...

1. SHOCK & DENIAL-
You will probably react to learning of the loss with numbed disbelief. You may deny the reality of the loss at some level, in order to avoid the pain. Shock provides emotional protection from being overwhelmed all at once. This may last for weeks.

2. PAIN & GUILT-
As the shock wears off, it is replaced with the suffering of unbelievable pain. Although excruciating and almost unbearable, it is important that you experience the pain fully, and not hide it, avoid it or escape from it with alcohol or drugs.

You may have guilty feelings or remorse over things you did or didn't do with your loved one. Life feels chaotic and scary during this phase.

3. ANGER & BARGAINING-
Frustration gives way to anger, and you may lash out and lay unwarranted blame for the death on someone else. Please try to control this, as permanent damage to your relationships may result. This is a time for the release of bottled up emotion.

You may rail against fate, questioning "Why me?" You may also try to bargain in vain with the powers that be for a way out of your despair ("I will never drink again if you just bring him back")

4. "DEPRESSION", REFLECTION, LONELINESS-
Just when your friends may think you should be getting on with your life, a long period of sad reflection will likely overtake you. This is a normal stage of grief, so do not be "talked out of it" by well-meaning outsiders. Encouragement from others is not helpful to you during this stage of grieving.

During this time, you finally realize the true magnitude of your loss, and it depresses you. You may isolate yourself on purpose, reflect on things you did with your lost one, and focus on memories of the past. You may sense feelings of emptiness or despair.

7 Stages of Grief...
5. THE UPWARD TURN-
As you start to adjust to life without your dear one, your life becomes a little calmer and more organized. Your physical symptoms lessen, and your "depression" begins to lift slightly.

6. RECONSTRUCTION & WORKING THROUGH-
As you become more functional, your mind starts working again, and you will find yourself seeking realistic solutions to problems posed by life without your loved one. You will start to work on practical and financial problems and reconstructing yourself and your life without him or her.

7. ACCEPTANCE & HOPE-
During this, the last of the seven stages in this grief model, you learn to accept and deal with the reality of your situation. Acceptance does not necessarily mean instant happiness. Given the pain and turmoil you have experienced, you can never return to the carefree, untroubled YOU that existed before this tragedy. But you will find a way forward.

7 stages of grief...

You will start to look forward and actually plan things for the future. Eventually, you will be able to think about your lost loved one without pain; sadness, yes, but the wrenching pain will be gone. You will once again anticipate some good times to come, and yes, even find joy again in the experience of living. 
 

http://www.recover-from-grief.com/7-stages-of-grief.html

http://narconon.ca/blog/heroin-addiction-heroin-rehab-narconon-troisrivieres-video.html

Heroin Addiction Ripped my Family Apart - a Narconon Trois-Rivieres Reco...

The Atonement, Creation, and the Fall

The three pillars of Eternity, an article with excerpts from Bruce R. McConkie

http://www.ldsphilosopher.com/?p=3318

Let me carry you
Let me bear the cold
I am here to share your load
Through all you’ve done
You have been true
But this is something you just can’t do
Let me carry you

You’re almost there
You will make it to the end
You will go on
And you’ll find your strength again
So one by one climb upon my back
And I will give you
Everything I have

We’re brothers in this earthly trail of tears
The faith we share
Is stronger than our fears
So let me be the Father’s hands today
My shoulders will bear you up with His strength 

http://www.facebook.com/ColtonandCherishLarsen

Pray for Cale

Our prayers are with the Pinckney/Hayward families. We pray that Cale gets sober and stays sober!

Love, 

Cherish

P.S. If you know James Cale Hayward and wants to write him, his address is Utah County Jail c/o James Hayward 3075 North Main Street Spanish Fork, UT

Memorial walk July 22, 2011

Hawkins Family will be walking on July 22nd. If you would like to do a walk on your own sometime during the day, please go ahead.


July 22, 2011 6:45 am


All my love,
Cherish Larsen (Carey's little sis)


Guest/Invitation List
Members of the Orem, Utah, Windsor State 4th Ward
Members of the Mapleton Utah North Stake


Please don't be offended if you aren't listed here, I can't remember everyone at this moment.

American Cancer Society Quit Smoking Tips

http://www.cancer.org/Healthy/StayAwayfromTobacco/index

http://www.cancer.org/acs/groups/cid/documents/webcontent/002971-pdf.pdf

The following is a preview of a great guide to help people quit smoking. Follow the link above, it is a pdf file of it!

What do I need to know about quitting?

The US Surgeon General has said, "Smoking cessation (stopping smoking) represents the single most important step that smokers can take to enhance the length and quality of their lives."

Quitting smoking is not easy, but you can do it. To have the best chance of quitting and staying quit, you need to know what you’re up against, what your options are, and where to go for help. You'll find this information here.

Why is it so hard to quit smoking?

Mark Twain said, "Quitting smoking is easy. I've done it a thousand times." Maybe you've tried to quit, too. Why is quitting and staying quit hard for so many people? The answer is nicotine.

Nicotine

Nicotine is a drug found naturally in tobacco. It is as addictive as heroin or cocaine. Over time, a person becomes physically dependent on and emotionally addicted to nicotine. The physical dependence causes unpleasant withdrawal symptoms when you try to quit. The emotional and mental dependence (addiction) make it hard to stay away from nicotine after you quit. Studies have shown that smokers must deal with both the physical and mental dependence to quit and stay quit.

Memorial walk cancelled

Memorial walk cancelled

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Remember Carey's Journey

Carey's earthly journey may be over but yours is not. 

Make the decision TODAY to put down that cigarette or beer. Talk to a family member or friend about their drug problem. Help get your family member or yourself to rehab. Asking for help is not weakness. Asking for help is courageous!!!!

Remember the Journey

(Jenny Phillips/Tyler Castleton)

The clouds roll above us

The mighty stars shine down

The rainstorms give life to the ground Everywhere we look we see His hands The almighty Father Has blessed us with His plan

Remember the journey Remember this time

You are being tested You are being tried

Remember your promise Remember your design With every breath

With every step Walk faithfully

Remember the Journey

You loved the Father

You chose the light

Your faithfulness led to this life But so much seems to try to pull you down

To make you loose the light that you once found

Love, Lil Sis

His Hands (Jesus Christ)

Because I Believe By: Jenny Phillips. Love, Lil Sis

Beautiful to Him

Carey's Sunrise

Hey Carey, I enjoyed the sunrise today. I hope you get to see sunrise's as well. Good luck on your mission in the spirit world. I hope to see you at the temple soon!

Love, Lil Sis

Provident.org article on Sleep/Rest

Sleep and Rest

Note: Although most of the underlined links below are not sponsored by the Church, they provide useful health information. “Cease to be idle; cease to be unclean; cease to find fault one with another; cease to sleep longer than is needful; retire to thy bed early, that ye may not be weary; arise early, that your bodies and your minds may be invigorated” (D&C 88:124). “Do not run faster or labor more than you have strength” (D&C 10:4). Lack of adequate rest has become a significant health problem for many people. The brain and body need sufficient, regular sleep to recover from the stresses of each day and to bring order to mind and body functions. In a normal sleep pattern, the brain cycles through various stages of wakefulness and deep slumber. Some conditions may disturb the progression of these stages. Insomnia disturbs the sleep pattern by interfering with the plunge into deep sleep.Sleep apnea causes breathing to repeatedly stop for one or more breaths, resulting in periodic low blood oxygen. There are also conditions that make it difficult for people to fall asleep. In teenagers, a problem getting to sleep is often related to delayed sleep phase syndrome. Commonly, problems falling asleep may be related to anxiety, and problems staying asleep may be related to clinical depression; both conditions may require treatment. All of these conditions that disturb a normal sleep pattern deprive the body and mind of needed recovery from daily stress and leave the person tired, functioning poorly, and susceptible to disease. However, there are things that can be done to improve the quality of sleep and rest. Learn more about how to improve sleep habits. Read related articles from Church magazines to gain more insight.

Love, Lil Sis

video of carey

Hey readers,
I have a video of Carey if anyone wants to view it sometime. I couldn't figure out how to post it on the website!

Love,
Little Sis