8/2/11
2 year anniversary of Carey's death today
To my big brother, I miss you, I love you and I am so thankful that I will see you again someday. Thank goodness for the Atonement and Resurrection. The glorious Plan saves us all!
I know I'll see you again someday.
Love you, Little Sis
I know I'll see you again someday.
Love you, Little Sis
7/29/11
7 Stages of Grief, very interesting to think about
Here is the grief model called "The 7 Stages of Grief":
7 Stages of Grief...
1. SHOCK & DENIAL-
You will probably react to learning of the loss with numbed disbelief. You may deny the reality of the loss at some level, in order to avoid the pain. Shock provides emotional protection from being overwhelmed all at once. This may last for weeks.
2. PAIN & GUILT-
As the shock wears off, it is replaced with the suffering of unbelievable pain. Although excruciating and almost unbearable, it is important that you experience the pain fully, and not hide it, avoid it or escape from it with alcohol or drugs.
1. SHOCK & DENIAL-
You will probably react to learning of the loss with numbed disbelief. You may deny the reality of the loss at some level, in order to avoid the pain. Shock provides emotional protection from being overwhelmed all at once. This may last for weeks.
2. PAIN & GUILT-
As the shock wears off, it is replaced with the suffering of unbelievable pain. Although excruciating and almost unbearable, it is important that you experience the pain fully, and not hide it, avoid it or escape from it with alcohol or drugs.
You may have guilty feelings or remorse over things you did or didn't do with your loved one. Life feels chaotic and scary during this phase.
3. ANGER & BARGAINING-
Frustration gives way to anger, and you may lash out and lay unwarranted blame for the death on someone else. Please try to control this, as permanent damage to your relationships may result. This is a time for the release of bottled up emotion.
3. ANGER & BARGAINING-
Frustration gives way to anger, and you may lash out and lay unwarranted blame for the death on someone else. Please try to control this, as permanent damage to your relationships may result. This is a time for the release of bottled up emotion.
You may rail against fate, questioning "Why me?" You may also try to bargain in vain with the powers that be for a way out of your despair ("I will never drink again if you just bring him back")
4. "DEPRESSION", REFLECTION, LONELINESS-
Just when your friends may think you should be getting on with your life, a long period of sad reflection will likely overtake you. This is a normal stage of grief, so do not be "talked out of it" by well-meaning outsiders. Encouragement from others is not helpful to you during this stage of grieving.
4. "DEPRESSION", REFLECTION, LONELINESS-
Just when your friends may think you should be getting on with your life, a long period of sad reflection will likely overtake you. This is a normal stage of grief, so do not be "talked out of it" by well-meaning outsiders. Encouragement from others is not helpful to you during this stage of grieving.
During this time, you finally realize the true magnitude of your loss, and it depresses you. You may isolate yourself on purpose, reflect on things you did with your lost one, and focus on memories of the past. You may sense feelings of emptiness or despair.
7 Stages of Grief...
5. THE UPWARD TURN-
As you start to adjust to life without your dear one, your life becomes a little calmer and more organized. Your physical symptoms lessen, and your "depression" begins to lift slightly.
6. RECONSTRUCTION & WORKING THROUGH-
As you become more functional, your mind starts working again, and you will find yourself seeking realistic solutions to problems posed by life without your loved one. You will start to work on practical and financial problems and reconstructing yourself and your life without him or her.
7. ACCEPTANCE & HOPE-
During this, the last of the seven stages in this grief model, you learn to accept and deal with the reality of your situation. Acceptance does not necessarily mean instant happiness. Given the pain and turmoil you have experienced, you can never return to the carefree, untroubled YOU that existed before this tragedy. But you will find a way forward.
7 Stages of Grief...
5. THE UPWARD TURN-
As you start to adjust to life without your dear one, your life becomes a little calmer and more organized. Your physical symptoms lessen, and your "depression" begins to lift slightly.
6. RECONSTRUCTION & WORKING THROUGH-
As you become more functional, your mind starts working again, and you will find yourself seeking realistic solutions to problems posed by life without your loved one. You will start to work on practical and financial problems and reconstructing yourself and your life without him or her.
7. ACCEPTANCE & HOPE-
During this, the last of the seven stages in this grief model, you learn to accept and deal with the reality of your situation. Acceptance does not necessarily mean instant happiness. Given the pain and turmoil you have experienced, you can never return to the carefree, untroubled YOU that existed before this tragedy. But you will find a way forward.
7 stages of grief...
You will start to look forward and actually plan things for the future. Eventually, you will be able to think about your lost loved one without pain; sadness, yes, but the wrenching pain will be gone. You will once again anticipate some good times to come, and yes, even find joy again in the experience of living.
http://www.recover-from-grief.com/7-stages-of-grief.html
7/14/11
The Atonement, Creation, and the Fall
The three pillars of Eternity, an article with excerpts from Bruce R. McConkie
http://www.ldsphilosopher.com/?p=3318
http://www.ldsphilosopher.com/?p=3318
7/10/11
Let me carry you
Let me bear the cold
I am here to share your load
Through all you’ve done
You have been true
But this is something you just can’t do
Let me carry you
You’re almost there
You will make it to the end
You will go on
And you’ll find your strength again
So one by one climb upon my back
And I will give you
Everything I have
We’re brothers in this earthly trail of tears
The faith we share
Is stronger than our fears
So let me be the Father’s hands today
My shoulders will bear you up with His strength
Pray for Cale
Our prayers are with the Pinckney/Hayward families. We pray that Cale gets sober and stays sober!
Cherish
P.S. If you know James Cale Hayward and wants to write him, his address is Utah County Jail c/o James Hayward 3075 North Main Street Spanish Fork, UT
Love,
P.S. If you know James Cale Hayward and wants to write him, his address is Utah County Jail c/o James Hayward 3075 North Main Street Spanish Fork, UT
Memorial walk July 22, 2011
Hawkins Family will be walking on July 22nd. If you would like to do a walk on your own sometime during the day, please go ahead.
July 22, 2011 6:45 am
All my love,
Cherish Larsen (Carey's little sis)
Guest/Invitation List
Members of the Orem, Utah, Windsor State 4th Ward
Members of the Mapleton Utah North Stake
Please don't be offended if you aren't listed here, I can't remember everyone at this moment.
July 22, 2011 6:45 am
All my love,
Cherish Larsen (Carey's little sis)
Guest/Invitation List
Members of the Orem, Utah, Windsor State 4th Ward
Members of the Mapleton Utah North Stake
Please don't be offended if you aren't listed here, I can't remember everyone at this moment.
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